5 Simple Ways to Reconnect with Your Spouse and Strengthen Your Marriage

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Written By Danielle Robles, MA, LPC
Reconnecting in marriage through quality time together

Introduction: Why Connection Matters

Life gets busy. Between work, kids, responsibilities, and stress, it’s easy to drift apart. But deep down, we all crave connection—especially in marriage. When we prioritize our relationship, we build a stronger foundation not only for our marriage but also for our faith and family.

If you’re feeling distant from your spouse, this guide will help you take intentional steps to rebuild closeness and communication.

1. Never Stop Dating Your Spouse

Just because you're married doesn’t mean dating is over! Prioritizing intentional time together helps keep your relationship strong.

Try this:

  • Aim for one date night every two weeks. It doesn’t have to be expensive—even a simple walk or coffee date counts!

  • Take turns planning dates to keep things fresh and exciting.

  • Set aside “device-free” quality time each day, even if it’s just 15 minutes.

Marriage connection grows stronger with intentionality

2. Be Intentional in Your Marriage

We often put effort into our careers, friendships, and kids—but what about our spouse? Connection requires intentionality!

Try this:

  • Set relationship goals together (spiritual, financial, or emotional).

  • Practice small daily gestures—compliments, thank-you’s, or hugs.

  • Establish a weekly check-in where you share highs and lows.

3. Hold a Grace-Filled Perspective

It’s easy to get frustrated with each other, but remember—you’re on the same team! Viewing your spouse with grace strengthens your unity.

Try this:

  • When conflicts arise, ask yourself: How can I assume the best in them?

  • Instead of reacting, take a deep breath and listen with empathy.

  • Remind yourself: They are not my enemy. We are working toward the same goal.

4. Improve Communication by Seeking to Understand

One of the biggest causes of disconnection is feeling misunderstood. Learning to communicate well can make all the difference.

Try this:

  • Before responding, ask yourself: What are they really trying to say?

  • Validate their feelings instead of dismissing them.

  • Use open-ended questions like, “Can you tell me more about that?”

5. Practice Self-Care—Together!

A healthy marriage starts with healthy individuals. When you take care of yourself, you have more to give your spouse.

Try this:

  • Engage in each other’s favorite self-care activities.

  • Discuss ways to incorporate rest and fun into your lives.

  • Find a shared activity (exercise, reading, or prayer) that nourishes you both.

A Biblical Perspective on Marriage

Genesis 2:21-22 tells us:

"So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man."

This passage reminds us that marriage was designed by God for deep connection. When we prioritize our spouse and keep God at the center of our relationship, we create a foundation of love, unity, and faith.

Next Steps: Start Reconnecting Today

Strengthening your marriage doesn’t require big changes—just small, consistent efforts. Choose one action from this guide to start today!

👉 What’s one step you can take this week to reconnect with your spouse?

Danielle Robles, MA, LPC https://www.westsidefamily.care
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